“Friends Give Meaning to Life:” Reframing Friendship for Individuals with Autism that Type to Communicate

Jessica K. Bacon, Fernanda Orsati, Scott Floyd, Hesham Khater


We, two able-bodied authors and two authors with autism, use a disability studies framework to understand our experiences of friendship. Taken from a series of recorded conversations over the course of a year, this project describes the development, maintenance, and complications related to our experiences with friendship, including: reframing of friendships, respect for communication, facilitator roles and support, interdependence and reciprocity, and permanency in relationships.


friendships; communication; disability studies


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